Are you single and looking?
Been on several dates but not found anyone suitable?
Are you ready to find a committed and loving relationship?
Feel like you are running out of time?
Not enough time to socialise?

Finding a suitable partner for a relationship or marriage is a problem facing men and women. I thought this was just a women’s issue, however it clearly is not. There are a variety of reasons why this is happening and coaching can help.

Why am I always meeting the wrong ones?

This seems to be a problem for many people, especially women. If you date a lot and are meeting all the wrong types of people then this is an issue that may need to be addressed. Relationship coaching can help you discover why this is happening and break the pattern. Perhaps you need clarity on what you are really looking for. Many people feel that they should be going for a certain type. What society tells us we "should" want may not be right for us. Relationship coaching will reveal what your true desires are. Once you know what you really long for, you will be able to recognise it when you see it.

Perhaps you know what you want but still keep getting something else. We often attract what we fear. I have seen this many times. I have had clients who were very clear about what they wanted, but they seemed to be attracting the opposite. We sometimes attract what we don’t want because of how we feel deep down. This is something that you may not even be aware of. Relationship coaching will help you clarify what is going on. Once you know the pattern, you will be able to break it.

I am too busy to date

The demands of juggling a career and a personal life can be too much for many. This is where coaching can help. Relationship coaching deals with how to manage stress as well, no matter where it is coming from. If you are stressed at work, it will affect your personal life. Coaching will help you find new ways of managing stress. With time being precious, it may be that you have a limited amount of time to spend on finding someone. We will brainstorm together about what avenues are best for you and how you might make this a rewarding experience.

I am running out of time

This is a problem faced by many women who wish to have children. Being in our thirties can be a real cause for alarm as we "should" have had our kids by now. Life doesn't always have a neat and tidy plan. This belief can also lead to desperation and making a mistake. Fear can either be motivating or paralysing. If you are feeling panicked, then its likely that fear is playing a part in this. Coaching will help you to manage your emotions around this issue. You will be able to reduce the fear so that you can think clearly. Fear can sabotage something good as well, so it is important to manage it. Coaching will help you remain hopeful and calm so that you make a choice that is right for you. We will explore the cause of this fear and what is really holding you back. Once that fear barrier is gone, you are much more likely to attract that relationship into your life. Being single can be a lot of fun and there is joy in being in a loving and committed relationship. Some times we have barriers in the way that we don’t even know are there. By removing these barriers we can welcome what we truly deserve. Coaching is a wonderful process that will help you do just that.

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Are you recently divorced?
Having trouble moving on after the marriage?
Feeling lonely but afraid to get into another relationship?

If you have experienced divorce or are going through it now, you have my fullest empathy. Divorce is hard, no matter how amicable it is. Even if the relationship was difficult or even abusive, being divorced doesn't mean that it is easy to move on from that.

Perhaps you have experienced some doubts as to whether you did everything you could to save the marriage. Maybe there was regret or other more negative emotions. How someone else treats us is not in our control. When things don't work out there is a myriad of emotional baggage to sift through and heal from.

Relationship coaching can help you in coping more with your divorce in a more empowered way. How does relationship coaching help in coping with divorce? Relationship coaching will help you to address the various issues that cause you pain and stop you from moving on.

Healing from the past:

It is essential to heal from past wounds if we are to create a happier present and future. Many of us get stuck in the past when we experience a divorce. Coaching will help you in coping with divorce and slowly shift your focus to what you want for your life. By shifting your focus to your future, you will be able to learn to let go of past hurts. I will also work with you through exercises that will help to let go of the past and to develop a more empowering relationship with what happened. An empowering relationship with the past will provide an opening for love and happiness in the future.

Coping with day to day life:

Coping with divorce also means that coping with everyday life can be very difficult. If you have children, then you may also have to answer their questions. Children have emotional issues in adjusting to divorce. Your home will have memories that may bring up difficult emotions as well. Relationship coaching will help you to create practical solutions on a day to day basis. Coping with divorce involves creating the ability to discuss these issues with your children. Relationship coaching will give you the space to breathe and to discuss options on how to handle the children. You will have the much needed space to be able to vent and to discuss solutions. Relationship coaching will also look at how to plan for financial and other responsibilities. Relationship coaching will help you to gain strength on a day to day basis. We may do some exercises together and brainstorm solutions so that your environment becomes more suited to your new lifestyle as well.

Creating a future relationship:

Many of us who have experienced difficult relationships may find it very difficult to commit to another one. I have met people who say that they will never marry because their first marriage didn't work out despite their efforts. If you have past hurt in the way, or are unclear about what you are looking for in a new relationship, it will be very hard to commit to a new relationship. Coaching will help you cope with divorce to create healing in your life. Once you have gotten that very important closure, then you will be able to focus on what you are truly looking for in a relationship. Healing and clarity go together; when you have both, you will naturally attract a fulfilling and happy relationship into your life. You will know where you are willing to compromise and what your "deal breakers" are.

Coping with divorce can be difficult on your own. Relationship coaching will give you the support you need to cope with this massive change. Relationship coaching is about giving yourself the opportunity to heal from the past and explore a new and exciting future. Taking that first important step towards coaching may be the most important one in helping yourself. You will find that the results were worth the effort.

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Are you feeling lonely? Is your relationship falling apart? Does your partner refuse to go for counselling? Then relationship coaching may be the answer for you. Relationship coaching will give you some advantages:

I think our marriage needs help but my spouse refuses to go. What do I do? Marriage counselling usually requires BOTH partners to be willing to attend the sessions. This causes a problem when one partner suggests counselling but the other feels that there is no problem to address. Perhaps they are fine with the way things are, or it may be that they are unwilling to accept that there is a problem. Some people are afraid of change and would like things to remain familiar. It may not be a wonderful situation, but it is one that they can cope with. Many people have issues with airing their dirty laundry in public so they are unwilling to trust an outsider with such personal issues. There could be a variety of reasons why one partner may resist coming to counselling whilst the other wishes to go.

If you are facing a situation where your partner doesn't wish to have any counselling; there is still a way forward for you. Perhaps you might be wondering what to do. It may seem that the situation is impossible and there is no way out but to leave. You know you love your spouse and you desperately want to work on your marriage. Don't despair; there is something you can do. Relationship coaching is a wonderful alternative because you can do it on your own and still improve your marriage!

So how does relationship coaching work?

If your relationship is full of stress, relationship coaching will provide you with will a non judgmental space to work through issues by yourself. You won't feel any pressure becuase your spouse isn't there. You will not have to compete to be heard. Coaching will help you view the issues more objectively. You will discover new solutions and learn how to communicate more effectively. You will also find out more about yourself. Your confidence and self-esteem will rise as your resolve your issues. Each time you leave a session, you will have new solutions and insights. With each step, you will find deeper understanding of yourself, and your spouse. Relationship coaching works because you give yourself much needed space and time. One of my clients saved her marriage this way. Her husband was unwilling to have any counselling or coaching. She was desperate to get some help as they had already been separated before. She had several complaints about her husband. Through co aching, she learned various ways of communicating with him. She also learned about some of her own issues. Having worked on her relationship through the coaching process; she has saved her marriage. Her children are happier and her own self-confidence has grown.

If you are separated and looking to resolve issues on your own coaching will help speed up the process. You will be able to work on unresolved issues with someone who is skilled in seeing the "blind spots." I will point out where you might still be blocked and we can work on those issues together. You may find yourself reaching the conclusions you needed to, and at an appropriate pace.

If you are single and looking then relationship coaching can be very effective in many ways. You will become a lot clearer in what you want in a partner. You will also be able to work through any issues that might be blocking you from finding that partner as well.

Give it a go! you will be amazed at the results!
Whatever your situation, your intention to improve your relationship will make your coaching powerful. You will find new solutions and your self-esteem will grow. I will help you focus on the future and heal the past. You will improve your relationship with yourself first of all and then be able to create the relationship you have always longed for.

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Are you Muslim or have a Muslim partner?
Are you experiencing difficulties in your marriage?
Staying married just because of the kids?
Feel you have no where to go to if you left?

Muslim marriages may need a little support at times. Unfortunately, many Muslims feel that they have no one to turn to in times of such need. Families cannot be approached with such sensitive issues and going to someone non-Muslim is not a good option. These problems may lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness. Do you know anyone who is suffering like this? It may be comforting to know that help is indeed available to help Muslims resolve issues and save their marriages.

Being Muslim myself, I understand the reservations that many Muslims have to seeking counselling from traditional sources. Be assured that working with me, you will find your values shared and respected. I understand the reservations that come with sharing something so personal with someone you do not know. I assure you that I have worked with several Muslim clients and I will ensure that everything you share with me is kept in the strictest confidence.

You may be wondering well how I can help being a Muslim life coach. Life Coaching is not the traditional form of marriage counselling. So how does a Muslim Life coach help the Muslim marriage? I work with Muslim clients to first provide them with a safe space so that they can share their concerns. Often, Muslim women will come by themselves as their husbands are not keen to seek counselling; this is not a problem. Working with one person can have a powerful and positive impact on the marriage.

The aim of coaching for the Muslim marriage is not help you find solutions to your concerns. Whether you are a Muslim brother or sister, relationship coaching can be relevant to the Muslim marriage. Coaching will help you:

• Enhance communication
• Reduce stress
• Learn to cope better with in-laws and family
• Speak so that you are heard
• Enhance your spirituality
• Increase your own self –esteem

Coaching for the Muslim marriage involves creating a team with my clients. Whether you have coaching on your own, or as a couple, we will create a tailor made plan that supports your needs. I will help you to find new solutions, create healing, and rekindle hope.

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